i hope flowers grow out of my decomposing body
Anonymous asked:
Hey! I saw your post about identifying as Stone, and I haven't heard of that so I'm curious... What does it mean?
butchcharliee answered:
It just means someone who doesn’t want to be touch and/or penetrated during sex and does the giving! They don’t want their genitals to be touch or any other part of their body. I’m a stone top! Someone also asked me how I knew I was stone here
There’s also stone bottoms who’s on the receiving end and don’t particularly like to touch genitals and such
Stone identities can mean something different for everyone, there’s no one way to be stone. If you have boundaries of how you like to be touched or not touched then that’s enough for someone to be stone.
love feeling insecure abt being stone and guilty about people not respecting my boundaries, only to go back to my favorite safe posts, preaching stone tops and stone bottoms ❤️ love you all
plus, invalidating our existence and crossing our boundaries will only result in you getting beaten up.
i stg the people who link stone femmes to “not giving pleasure” don’t understand us at all. like i can get my partners off without touching their genitals and you think im not an expert in giving pleasure? touch grass
To all my stone femmes, stone butches, stone mascs, stone studs, stone bottoms, stone tops and pillow princesses - I love every single one of you, you are incredibly important and don't let anybody let you think you're not. I love the variety of dynamics we are able to have and the comfortability of others finding their perfect match 💕💕💓
This most likely won’t be the last time I talk about this but I also wanted to expand more on being a black high femme lesbian/ pillow princess. Because in general in life I already have to justify my personhood to everyone else because I am black first and foremost. And though I do benefit from patriarchal standards of beauty being light-skinned and thin, I’m still not exempt from our communities lack in decolonizing their thoughts on identity and sex. Most black femmes are looked at objectively and sexually. We’re more likely to be sex-symbols before we’re viewed as just people. And with that comes the thought what can we do for you/ how can we serve you. Because if we aren’t sexualized in a way to be dominated we’re masculinized and made out to be the one who should be doing the dominating. Because as a black femme it’s asking too much to just be on the receiving end instead of just giving it all up. And I should reiterate that black stone femmes are not a monolith, we all have shit that we’re into but, we all have boundaries as well. An overall question is do you view black femmes/black pillow princesses the same as our white/poc counterparts when it comes to boundaries and sex? If not you may want to address that and ask yourself why.
(This is about black stone lesbians)
Wanted to show off the outfit for my gfs and I’s 6 month anniversary 😁
• she/they | stone femme lesbian | men dni •
Still not done and this is an incredibly IMPORTANT part of the conversation around stone identities.
I am not going to "melt the stone" or try to force my partners boundaries in the name of reciprocity, my fiance is a stone butch top. I'm not going to press them to let me touch them or fuck them or talk to them in a way they aren't COMFORTABLE WITH OR WANT.
Stone tops aren't damaged or broken or just need coaxing to enjoy something that is outside of their boundaries.
My butch doesn't want to take strap or want to be penetrated, I'm not gonna try to manipulate them into trying because SOMEONE ELSE WHO DOESNT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT US OR DYKE STONE IDENTITIES, thinks my sex life isn't shared and reciprocal.
Stop disregarding stone identities.
And lovingly from my stone butch top fiance, stay out of dyke business ✨️💋
Pillow Princesses, stone femmes, high femmes, whatever words you choose to describe yourself:
You're not selfish or greedy. You have boundaries like everyone else.
You aren't "bad," you aren't "wrong." You are a necessary part of our ecosystem.
As a stone butch, someone who doesn't want to and can't receive, I am so grateful for your role.
You allow yourself to be fully vulnerable for us. To allow us your full trust and affection. What you do is brave, braver than I could ever manage. You all take so much care in healing us, in making us feel wanted, and we are lucky to serve you.
You truly are princesses, you're loving and generous and brave and provide. You provide as much as we do.
Thank you for your services, and for allowing us to worship at your altar.
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